Is it true that you didn’t complete everything you had on your list for 2016 and neither did you start on the goal you had on your list yesterday? If you answered yes, let’s not beat ourselves up about it. Minor accomplishments are morale boosters for the next goal. If you answered no, don’t forget to cheer everyone else on. Remember we’re a team.
Please note, if you have not seen the movie Love and Basketball, the remainder of this post may not make sense.
Like Monica McCall (Sanaa Lathan) in Love and Basketball said to her parents about getting into the college of her choice “chances are there’s still a chance”. She was accepted into the college right?
She may have not been recognized by the coach when she expected, but she was chosen at the right time. Although her options were “in the air”, she continued to keep her goal at the forefront of her mind. Despite the obstacles of pressure from her family to pursue a different path and defensive players on the court, she knew Spalding (basketball) was still her choice.
Think about the goals you’ve set for yourself and ask yourself the following:
1) Who are the people who are trying to turn you away from your Spalding (your goals)?
Dismiss these people. Okay, maybe you can’t because some of these individuals are family. I understand, but just because someone is a part of your life, it doesn’t mean they need to know everything about you. I don’t and won’t share all of my goals with everyone in my circle and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with this.
2) Who is the Lena Wright (Monica McCall’s sister), the person supporting you in your life?
You remember Lena (her sister)? You need multiple people who are going to be your cheerleaders. It means a lot to have people in your corner encouraging you in the good and bad times, someone to say “it’s okay”. Lena was actually more than a cheerleader. She did Monica’s hair and even got her a date to the dance. No matchmaking (I don’t believe that’s any of our roles). However, it’s nice to have a friend who’s willing to go the extra mile.
3) Who is the person who you don’t mind knocking on your window late at night?
You don’t want anyone coming to your house late, but it’s always great to have that friend that you can call at anytime. This may be the person, you know you can call when your goals are all out of whack (accountability partner). Keep this person on speed dial, but don’t abuse the friendship. When this person needs you, be there for them. If you have curfew, find another way to communicate with them. You never know they may be a Quincy and decide they need another friend. We all know this was an intimate relationship between Quincy & Monica. I still think the same concept of being there for your friend remains. Just make sure your so-called friend, isn’t making you choose between priorities.
4) Who is Sidra O’Neal?
Remember the person Monica was in competition with throughout college?
Find you someone who you can compete with in a healthy way. There’s absolutely no reason for any of us to be competing in a rival way.
Last, we gotta be a Lena, Quincy, and Sidra to ourselves.
You show your love for yourself by giving you everything that you want everyone else to give to you.
You can even be your own Sidra. Yes, you even have to look at yourself in the mirror and say ‘self I’m going to be better than you were yesterday’.
Take a look at your goals quarter by quarter. Remember watching Monica’s growth quarter by quarter? As you’re planning and getting organized, don’t allow your time to turn into clutter. We sometimes get so caught into accomplishing our goals to the point where we’re paying attention to the deadlines we’ve set, but not the actual task itself. Remember quality is better than quantity. If you can’t meet your deadline, you may want to think about pushing your date back.
Most of all, remember, “chances are there’s still a chance”, but don’t take a chance with your life. Overall, be patient and remember your timeline is already built out by God Himself.
Monica went to the college she wanted, married her man, and went to the pro’s. You can accomplish all of your goals, as well! Double or nothing right?
Thank you for taking time out of your day to read this blog post. I hope you appreciated the Love and Basketball references.